I have HIV but my wife doesn't know
- Calvin Caltoto
- Apr 3, 2024
- 2 min read
Updated: Aug 15, 2024

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In the quiet suburbs of a bustling city, Zakarias carries a heavy burden hidden beneath a facade of normalcy. Married since April 23, 1998, Zakarias harbors a secret that threatens to tear his world apart. He is HIV positive, and his wife remains unaware of his diagnosis.
"It's like living a double life," Zakarias confesses, the weight of his secret evident in his weary eyes. "On the outside, everything seems normal, but inside, I'm constantly battling with fear and guilt."
Diagnosed with HIV/AIDS shortly after their marriage, Zakarias made the difficult decision to keep his diagnosis a secret from his wife. "I didn't want to burden her with the truth," he explains, his voice tinged with regret. "I was afraid of how she would react, of the stigma and discrimination we would face."
For years, Zakarias has lived in the shadows, silently managing his illness and taking his medication in secret. "It's a daily struggle," he admits, his words heavy with resignation. "But I do it to protect her, to shield her from the pain and heartache of knowing the truth."
But the weight of his secret grows heavier with each passing day, threatening to consume him from within. "There are times when I feel like I'm suffocating," Zakarias confides, his voice trembling with emotion. "The guilt eats away at me, knowing that I'm keeping such a monumental secret from the person I love most in this world."
As Zakarias grapples with his inner turmoil, he knows that he cannot continue to carry this burden alone. "I need to tell her the truth," he resolves, his voice firm with determination. "I can't keep living this lie, pretending that everything is okay when it's not."
With his heart heavy and his hands shaking, Zakarias prepares to reveal the truth to his wife, knowing that the road ahead will be fraught with challenges and uncertainty. But amidst the fear and uncertainty, he finds solace in the hope that their love will prevail, even in the face of adversity.
As Zakarias takes the first step towards honesty and transparency, his story serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of communication and trust in navigating life's most difficult challenges. And as he confronts his demons head-on, he finds strength in the knowledge that he is not alone, that there are countless others who carry similar burdens in silence, waiting for the courage to speak their truth.
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